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Hot thoughts and cold thoughts are metaphors to how we react or respond to something. Eg we drop a plate and it smashes or someone cuts us off. Can you guess at the different kind of thoughts one might have and their metaphorical temperature? 

What is a thought anyway? Where do thoughts come from? These questions are of interest to scientists, philosophers, psychologists and many others. Research has mapped brain waves (see below) as well as mapping that the average person has between fifty-eighty thousand thoughts a day! A lot right?

Our thoughts (electric) trigger feelings (magnetic) in our limbic system creating emotions (e + motion = energy in motion). So, we have this electromagnetic field that is constantly changing based on our thoughts and feelings. This is why I (like many therapists) are obsessed with the questions: how does that make you feel? what thoughts do you have on that?

Our limbic system is like a chemist in our brain and we can buy lighter or more uplifting chemicals like Serotonin and Dopamine or sadder more stressful chemicals like Cortisol and Adrenaline.  But how can we ‘spend wisely’? Can we control our thoughts? Have you ever tried to stop thinking? How did that work out for you? Spoiler alert you can learn to control your mind.

Emotions provide clues to our thoughts. If you find yourself experiencing a heavier emotion ask yourself: What must I have being thinking in order to experience that emotion? 

There are some tools to control your mind and tools to work with the emotions. Thoughts and emotions interrelate as well as attitudes, beliefs, decisions and choices to create how we experience our lives.

We are going to explore these foundational topics and tools this Sunday in Intro to the Emotional Freedom Techniques. I will break this down and give lots of examples as well as you going home knowing how to do EFT or if you already know how to enhance your skills.

EFT is a springboard for knowing yourself more deeply, healing trauma and busting limiting beliefs that are not true and no longer serve.

EEGs map brain waves and have being conducted under a variety of conditions such as when people are awake, asleep, meditating, watching movies and even having sex.

Researches have discovered that most people experience Beta brain waves which relates to the fight or flight state (a stress state brought on by real or perceived danger). The slower waves of alpha and delta require our bodies to be in rest and digest otherwise known as breed or feed (a natural state for humans to be in when no real or perceived danger is present). While being in a relaxed state is natural unfortunately it is not normal with people experiencing epidemic levels of stress which causes huge social impacts.

Thoughts that have dystopic scary futures like, ‘What if I lose my job? or ‘What if the rug gets pulled out from underneath me some other way?’ cause high levels of stress, anxiety and even panic. This is all over a perceived danger. This kind of thinking is often caused by a belief and childhood experience of something going wrong a time where the rug was pulled out from underneath you. So you are on high alert and may have a limiting belief ‘I have to be on the look out / all good things come to an end’ and this may no longer be serving you.

It is very valuable to become a detective of your own subconscious! Which is why the question: What must I have being thinking to experience this emotion? is helpful. What are your thoughts, feelings, attitudes, beliefs, decisions and choices?

EFT teaches you to know thyself to look at what you feel, where you feel it and what happened in order to be free of it. It’s not a fluffy walk in the park but it is effective. 

The best ways to begin to know your mind and slow down is to spend ten minutes a day observing your thoughts and also to turn your attention to your breathing. Please email me or like superconscious on facebook to access many exercises. EFT is also fantastic and can be learnt in 5 minutes (however it takes a lot longer to master). I hope to see you at my next free EFT workshop.

A group of Cherokee children gathered around their grandfather. They are filled with excitement and curiosity. That day there had been a quite tumultuous conflict between two adults and their grandfather was called to mediate. The children are eager to hear what he has to say about it. One of the children pops the question that puzzles him. “Grandfather, why do people fight?”. “Well” the old man replies “we all have two wolves inside us, you see. They are in our chest. And these wolves are constantly fighting each other”. The eyes of the children have grown big by now. “In our chests too, grandfather?” asks another child. “And in your chest too?” asks a third one. He nods, “yes, in my chest too”. He surely has their attention now. Grandfather continues. “There is a white wolf and a black wolf. The black wolf is filled with fear, anger, envy, jealousy, greed, and arrogance. The white wolf is filled with peace, love, hope, courage, humility, compassion, and faith. They battle constantly”. Then he stops. It’s the child that asked the initial question that can’t handle the tension anymore. “But grandfather, which wolf wins?”. The old Cherokee simply replies, “the one that we feed”.

Which wolf are you feeding?

A synergy exists where the whole is greater than its parts or in other words when a group of people come together and focus on a goal the impact is far greater than individuals alone. Eg. having a gym buddy or doing a course with a friend.

Please enjoy a talk I gave on synergy as part of a Self Mastery online course it goes deep into the topic. I give details about how you can consciously or unconsciously create synergies in a simple conversation that impact relationships. I talk about synergies I have observed on film sets and other workplaces. And finish with the 5 top tips to being a constructive part of a synergies and thereby increasing its power. 

Do you ever get decision fatigue? If you are a parent or in a leadership role or even a human who has to eat you have probably experienced decision fatigue at one time or another. Have you seen how many jams there are to choose from in the market!?!

I know some couples who dread the question, so what do you want to eat? (haha).

I know there are some times when I have being directing or producing when what I crave is to go home, meditate with the lights off and create some time and space to just be…. without making a single decision. Yet I know that having free will, knowing what I what, making choices is essential to empowerment….

and practise makes perfect…..

So as many times as possible in my day before beginning a new task I get centred, ask myself what I want and imagine what it is like to live that vision. I have a five step process if you would like to know more please email for the link. 

There are also situations when you may be presented with two choices and either option may be appealing or seem challenging. When you are two awesome option but can only choose one that is what I call a beautiful problem. What about the two challenging options? Or when you need to make a decision that makes you ponder on your codes of ethics and sense of integrity.

Below is an exercise that engages both your logical / rationale conscious mind, and your intuitive, creative subconscious mind. If it resonance with you give it a go and let me know what your experience is. 

1.Take a deep breath and centre yourself.
2. Write your challenge in detail (around a page).
3. Condense that to a paragraph
4. Condense that to a sentence
5. Condense that to a word or image
6. Get yourself into a meditative state. I suggest using a singing bowl if you have one and listen to the bell or watch your breath for five minutes or look at nature for a few minutes (clouds, the ocean, fire / a candle, non-verbal music)
7. Set a timer for 5 minutes and meditate on the word or image you choose.
8. Write what insights came to you in the meditation period. You may receive images, thoughts, etc. Start with a sentence, expand to a paragraph and continue writing if you feel you have more to express.
9. Enjoy the clarity and take action.

This story captures the power of equanimity – meeting experiences in an even way by tempering your emotional reactions. 

Equanimity is one of Rudolf Steiner’s six basic exercises of Anthroposophy. Steiner is best known for Steiner Schools which he never wanted them to be named after him but called Waldorf schools. He was such an incredible yet humble man. It is because of lectures he gave that whole movements started.

Steiner / Wardolf schools are the largest non denominational schools in the world, there is even one in Kathmandu, Nepal (which I was fortunate to visit). Steiner’s lectures were like Ted talks – ideas definitely worth sharing and people saw that. He gave over 6000 lectures in his life on a variety of topics including medicine, colour, architecture,  art, farming, education,  special needs and more. Biodynamic farming originated from 3 weeks worth of lectures he gave to farmers, and like the schools, spread all the world and continue to flourish today!

Wow!

If you want something to research I suggest checking him out. I am huge fan of his and used to teach at the Steiner School in Sydney so if you have any question please get in touch.

One way to develop equanimity is to practice waiting 3 seconds before responding to anything for 21 days. So when your phone rings, you get an email, you spill a drink: wait three seconds before you do anything.

When I completed this exercise it gave me an amazing habit to take a pause in situations where I previously would have reacted and said or did something I later wished I hadn’t. Have you ever snapped at a loved one or had road rage in the car in front of your kids / friends?

The 3 Seconds Exercise creates a habit of a small pause! It seems simple to wait to answer a phone or answer a question but it creates an amazing strength…

The small pause is magical!!

It allows you to contemplate – what do I want to create in the situation?

What is the most vital action for me to take that is in harmony with service to myself and service to others?

I invite you to experiment with the ‘Waiting 3 Seconds’ exercise. If 3 weeks seems like too much, do it for one day.

This is the difference between reacting and responding.

Reacting happens when there is no space between the stimulus and the response like a knee that jerks when hit on the tendon under the patella.

If a person receives a compliment they will likely feel happy, if a person receives an insult they will likely feel angry or hurt, automatically, with no space in between, it happens in a instant.

A person who is training themselves to achieve self mastery will observe their mind and how it wants to react to the insult or compliment and create a space between to make a choice.

They will respond rather than react, and if they are wise that response will be moving them in the direction of their goals and dreams.

Another exercise is to Observe your feelings, restrain strong responses and strengthen feeble ones. Do this for 4 weeks.

This exercise is not done with an object or at a fixed time, but throughout the day. When something happens to you, look at your feelings, either at that moment or later.

If you start with this exercise, at first you might not experience many different feelings, but in the course of four weeks there appear to be more and more, both positive and negative, with fierce and feeble reactions. It may help to make a list or a map of your feelings and their intensity at the end of the day.

Feelings are like the weather. They are just there. We experience them, but unlike the weather we can adjust our reaction by our thoughts.

• An example: I say something to someone. He leaves the room and the door closes with a bang. I get scared and feel fear. Is this banging of the door a response to what I said? Did I hurt him? But is this thought justified? Perhaps the door was shut by a gust of wind. When the person comes back and smiles or says something like: the door fell out of my hand, then I am reassured and understand that my response was not correct and slowly I will be able to change my attitude to the slamming of a door. A next time I will be less scary and perhaps I am more neutral to such an event.

• Another example: when I am pushed in my back while walking in the street, I feel anger, annoyance or fear. When I see that I was pushed by a blind person, I understand that he could not help it. Perhaps that thought leads to a modified feeling about the event. And I can take it a step further by cultivating the thought: “Others may be blind to how they affect others. It is their ignorance or failure to see, that leads others to act towards me in ways that may evoke my anger.” Then, gradually, this thought permeates us and our feelings and reactions become modified. Maybe they are not as intense, or they don’t last so long anymore.

You cannot take a particular moment, but you need to restrain your strong responses at the moment that you experience them, and likewise cherish the subtle ones. When you look back at the end of the day, you will find that sometimes you could do that, and that you missed an opportunity at other times. The next day you go on with that awareness.

It’s not always easy to name feelings. There are feelings that are close to each other and yet different, such as happy and cheerful, anxious and afraid, angry and upset. Negative feelings are often easier to tackle than positive ones.

You need to distinguish feelings from quasi-feelings, which usually start with “I feel”, e.g. taken, used, loved, attacked. Real feelings usually start with “I am”, e.g. angry, happy, sad, surprised. It can help to make a list of feelings.

What is love? What does it mean to you? Perhaps you have different definitions for romantic love, platonic love and universal love? Perhaps you have not contemplated the different meanings of love?

Many of my clients have worked with me to process and release emotions such as grief, hopelessness and depression that arise from the break down or break up from a relationship.

I have deep empathy for this because I personally discovered Emotional Freedom Techniques after a period of failed attempts to heal grief after a break down of a relationship.

Back in 2013 after an unexpected break up, I was so sad I couldn’t stop crying and I couldn’t seem to control my mind the way I had been able to, as I had been taught for many years. I used ALL the techniques I had been studying for 15 years (meditations, cutting the ties that bind, energy clearing, screaming into a pillow, mantras, mindfulness, breath work, dream work, bioenergetics, hypnosis, making pain my teacher and friend, reframing, surrendering and more!)

I knew how important it was to control my mind. I knew from many experiences that the inside creates the outside. I knew the power of my thoughts. Yet all my attempts were like holding two hands up to a tsunami of emotion. The tears flowed until…..

I got a ping, an email from Jenny Johnson (one of my EFT mentors) about level one of The Emotional Freedom Techniques. ‘Gee’ that’s what I need right now! I went to the course and had a session from Jenny and I realised what was underlying the grief was a childhood event that was causing an emotional resonance. With the support of Jenny I was able to clear the grief!

I felt amazing. The heavy weight had been lifted and I could return to creating my life.

Since then I have been a strong advocate of the Emotional Freedom Techniques and trained until I had mastery of EFT. I continue to work with my other tools such as counselling, hypnotherapy, metaphysical teaching – all pointing towards the same intentions of conscious reality creation.

I believe you create your reality consciously or unconsciously so you either do it or it is done to you. I know it sounds like a lot, especially if you are living a creation you don’t like. But the good news is, if you are responsible for it (and avoid blaming) you have the power to change it! 

I have learnt that when we are emotionally overwhelmed it can be very challenging to feel empowered and creative. I deeply support EFT as a very powerful tool to calm the tsunami of emotion, get to know yourself more deeply, to sit in truth and get to a place where you can create powerfully. 

There is a difference between everyday love and universal love. Many clients and friends tell me of the deep pain and dysfunction patterns that arise (as opposed to success patterns) that are often justified by statements like “but I love him / her / them”.

Some people stay in abusive relationships because of this kind of reasoning or similar. As you will hear in the video below ‘love’ is one of the most manipulated words on the planet….

Eg. If you love me you would…. x/y/z

Because I love you x/y/z

The truth is love is a universal energy, a vibration that relates to unity and oneness. 

It is often felt as a warmth and expansion in your chest. Often it is felt when a person falls in love but it is an energy you can tune into at any moment… 

It is like building a fire. If you grab and focus on one thought of unity, kindness, gratitude, oneness these are like the twigs / kindling before long you can use the winds of your concentration to create roaring warmth. Admittedly, when the wood is wet it is more challenging. That is why I love EFT as a powerful tool to assist you on your journey.

Imagine what the world would be like if we could share the love we have for those closest to us with the whole world and ourselves.

An important part of EFT is the set up statement:

“Even though [insert challenge] I deeply and completely love and accept myself x3“

Many people find loving and accepting themselves difficult because they have ingested the 3 most common beliefs from 0-21 I am not good enough, I don’t have enough, I don’t know enough.

Other reasons people find it hard to love themselves is because they find their behaviour unacceptable – they are very hard on themselves and I often tell people to put the stick away and stop beating yourself up please! Would you talk to a little child the way you talk to yourself?

Some people believe they won’t change if they love and accept themselves. Yet it is the subconscious mind that dictates behaviour and the limiting beliefs that are held that control a lot of the destruction.

I suggest that if you work towards and adopt the belief that you are loveable and acceptable change can and will happen. Healing is a process and not an event. I encourage you to watch he below video from one of my courses.

If you need to enter a password to see video, use “love”

Where your focus goes energy grows.

There is certainly a lot in this world pulling at us for our attention. Biologically we are wired to be in a state of flight, flight or freeze or rest and digest. This design is meant to help us flood our body with energy so we can run away, freeze or fight a danger and when the danger passes rest and digest. Unfortunately, for a lot of us the ‘danger’ that we face appears constant and our bodies get stuck in a fight, flight or freeze state where our bodies get flooded with the stress hormones cortisol and adrenaline. Stress is super common and many of us are stuck in a go, go, go state that never lets us fully relax. What does relaxation mean to you? How do you relax? How do you care for yourself?

This month I invite you to find time to do things you enjoy. Or simply enjoy doing nothing. I would like to suggest you do your best to carve out 15 minutes a day to cultivate a joy of being. Flick the switch from doing to being. How? One way of cultivate an ability to stop doing and start being is to awaken the observer within you. 

For some of you relaxing may be easy. You may be able to simple be. For others it may be a muscle you have not exercised for a long time or there may be things you find hard to face when you stop. Intense, frightening thoughts and feelings might rise to the surface. Two simple exercises you can use to build your relaxation muscles and increase your spiritual fitness are:

• Put it in a box
  • Before you begin your relaxation or beingness, imagine a box and putting everything that is causing you anxiety, stress, depression or dis-ease in that box.
  • Then put the box anywhere in the universe.
  • Set a 15 minute timer and just be.
  • After the 15 minutes you can pick the box back up and sort through the emotions using EFT or any other emotional processing tools or you can send the box to the sun.
    
    Ultimately emotions are e + motion = energy in motion they want to be processed and released not stuck in the body. Sometimes processing and releasing them can be easy sometime it can be a challenge.
    
    Healing is a journey not an event, a marathon not a sprint. Where ever you are at on this journey I wish you peace, love and acceptance.  

• Watch your thoughts
  • For ten minutes a day (set a timer so you won’t be concerned with how much time has passed) sit in a quiet place where you will not be distracted and allow your thoughts to float through your mind.
  • Set the intention for you to be a passive watcher being in a neutral state of mind. As you do this you will become aware of how you judge, criticise, analyse, rationalise, intellectualise and justify your thoughts but do it being neutral.
  • Just be in a state equivalent to watching TV late a night and an advert comes on you have seen many times, you are aware of the advert although you are not engaging in it or associating with it in any way and at the same time aware being neutral.
    
    This is the first step to go beyond the conditioned mind and awaken your higher intelligence.

As well as facilitating Superconscious I work in the arts – documentary mostly. At the beginning of March 2020 I went to the AIDC (Australian International Documentary Conference). I have a documentary, The Oh Gap, that I am producing, directing and writing that was selected to pitch to a selection of network heads from around the world. We had a training day where the 15 projects selected got a chance to practise. I was so nervous to get up in front of my peers and pitch the project. My speech was too long and I had a prop that was a giant golden clitoris. I gave the practise speech and it felt as if I had a high amount of voltage in my body. I was speaking too fast and I felt that my voice may shake. It didn’t bode well for the big pitch a few days later. A speech that was meant to inspire people to hand over hundreds of thousands of dollars toward the project. 

Back at my accomodation I choose to begin to practise the techniques I share with others. I used self hypnosis, Emotional Freedom Techniques, meditation and self enquiry to transform my nervousness into excitement. I also chose a reframe. I reminded myself these people want great stories, I have great stories, we are on the same team, with the same goal. I did the practical measure of cutting my speech in half and then I used visualisation to imagine what I wanted to create – an inspiring, confident, rousing speech. 

On the day of the speech I still had about a 4/10 nervousness in my stomach. I did some tapping and within two minutes it was completely gone. I was really happy with how it went and we got several sales agents and broadcasters interested. It is a very exciting time. 

If you would like to learn some of these techniques come along to our next event EFT event. Click here to see when the next free workshop is on.

1. Relax more throughout the day to generate and maintain energy for your dream work. Often times we can get caught up in downward spirals in our thoughts, feelings, attitudes, beliefs, choices and decisions. Be aware by observing what you are thinking, saying and doing? Are you caught up in worry? Do you feel stressed? Use some techniques such as meditation, Emotional Freedom Techniques (tapping) or experiment with this two minute exercise that stimulates your vagas nerve and gives you nervous system the message to switch from fight and flight to rest and digest. “Place your hand on your low belly / abdomen. Take a deep breath, breath in through your nose and send the breath to your hand making the inhalation last for three counts, hold the breath for three counts and exhale out your mouth for the count of three. Repeat for a least 3 rounds.
2. Give yourself a hypnotic suggestion as you drift off to sleep –  “I will remember one dream tonight, I will remember one dream tonight, I will remember one dream tonight”. If you already remember one dream give yourself the suggestion you will remember all your dreams. We have 3-4 dreams a night.
3. In the morning write your dream on a scribble pad and jot down as many fragments as possible. This will strength your recall muscle and before long you will be writing pages. Just like any physical exercise it takes practice and building up slowly. We may not be able to do push ups or lift heavy weights but we can do easier exercise and build up the degree of difficulty. If you are already remembering your dreams work with writing them out in as much detail as possible or you may be ready to take the next steps towards lucid dreaming.
4. Write your dream out in the first person, present tense. The subconscious and unconscious minds never sleep! As the conscious mind rests (unless you are in a lucid dreaming state) the subconscious mind continues its work and consciousness. The subconscious mind consciousness relates to the eternal now, everything is happening in the moment. It relates to I am statements (rather than I will and I was). It is the conscious mind that exists in the linear timeline, which is past and future orientated. By using I am statements you will have access to greater recall. For example, it is common upon waking to write or think, “I was being chase. There were two bad guys following me. I got stuck in a dead end alleyway. I tried to run but my legs were made of lead. I tried to fight but my punches didn’t land”. Experiment with, “ I am being chased. Two bad guys are following me. I am seeing the look on their faces. I am feeling scared and out of control. I am yelling no. I am getting stuck in a dead end alleyway. I am trying to run. My legs are feeling heavy.”
5. Sometimes writing can mean the dreams slip away. Working with a voice recorder app on your phone means you can keep your eyes closed. You can lie in the same position you sleep in and recall your dreams. Remember to state them in the first person.

Recalling your dreams is the first step in accessing the incredible power of your subconscious mind.  It is what we are unconscious of that creates repetition without illumination, repeated experiences of self-sabotage, feeling stuck and like a victim of life rather than a creator. We are either in a dysfunction pattern in which we are playing our false beliefs we decided were true during the first 21 years of life or we are in a success pattern where we are choosing what we want and experiencing it.

I’m not good enough. I don’t know enough. I don’t have enough (time, money, etc,). Not many people escape the first 21 years without one one these limiting beliefs been strongly programmed into their subconscious where they quietly lurk sabotaging your conscious goals until you decide hey wait a minute I keep repeating the same dang pattern over and over. Maybe something deeper is at play? 

For all those who have suddenly found themselves with more time than ever before (which is probably everyone) you may be discovering that the things you ‘didn’t have time for’ have deeper reasons you didn’t engage in them. You may be discovering or creating new reasons – ‘I don’t have the motivation’, ‘I don’t have the energy’. I would like to suggest you keep looking and going deeper into the why. What limiting beliefs could you change? Look to your thoughts and feelings for clues. For more info on how to do this get in touch with me for a video link and password to a 20 minute talk I recorded.

We have an infinite amount of space and time. Time seems to be limited but time is so dependent on our consciousness. Time can fly or drag depending on our perception. When we dream or meditate we enter a timeless realm a space in which time in non-linear. You may be feeling powerless right now because you have no idea how long your reality will be ‘restricted’. I would like to remind you, you are more powerful than you have ever been told and your ‘prison’ can be your liberation. 

A final thought is on the gratitude that is often a result of a restriction. When we fast or go through something uncomfortable physically or otherwise the joy and gratitude we feel for food and comfort is immense. I travelled for a month without having hot water or a shower (I was using cold water and two buckets) this was over 8 years ago and I still feel gratitude for showers every time I have one. 

A master is someone who turns any situation into better than if it never occurred. To all those on a self mastery journey I wish you happy turning. Diamonds are formed under pressure. 

Yesterday after I got out of the ocean, I went to the ocean tap to rinse the sand off my feet. It is one of those taps that you press in and as the pressure releases the water flow shuts off. The one at my local beach has a very short length of water flow and I have to press if a few times to get the sand off. Grrrrrrr! Am I right?

Well, it all depends on my perception and deception filters.

It all depends on how I am choosing to see the tap. 

One of the foundational exercises I suggest for people to do is to watch their thoughts for ten minutes a day, for 7 days in a row.

Once you have an awareness of what you are thinking you can choose different thoughts. It might go something like this…

Inner monologue:  That was such a beautiful swim, I am so grateful I could enjoy that, my feet are sandy, oh great the tap is free, f**k you tap the stream is so short, how annoying, now I have to press it again, ugh so much effort….. hold up…… why am I angry?, take a deep breath, ahhh, okay [to thought] – thank you but no thank you, I choose to be grateful for that tap, I live in a society that has put that tap their to remove the sand, how kind.

You could go on and on with lots of gratitude…

Inner monologue: it is so great to have a tap to wash my feet, and feet to wash, to be in a peaceful society with taps, wow somebody invented that tap and that pressure system to conserve water, people care about the environment, many people are inventors, we have so much ability as humans, this suburb and council is amazing, etc.

Every thought we have sets off a pulse of electricity in the brain that triggers a neurochemical reaction that we experience as emotion. Eg. “f**k you tap” = cortisol = anger Vs “I love you tap” = serotonin or oxytocin = love / gratitude / happiness.

It is through our power of choice at the level of thought that we can begin to make new choices and new neural pathways and actually make ourselves feel good. It’s as though there is a chemist in our brain, our thoughts are dollars and we can buy antidepressants. 

There are so many other ways to make changes with various healing tools, going deep into our subconscious, working on our attitudes, beliefs, imagination, etc. Yet I would like to suggest working with thought is a fantastic way especially if you feel out of control in your life or of yourself or if you are feeling low energy.  You can influence and control your mind even if everything around you seems out of control. In the opening line of one of my favourite fiction books, Shantaram, Gregory David Roberts writes:

“IT TOOK ME a long time and most of the world to learn what I know about love and fate and the choices we make, but the heart of it came to me in an instant, while I was chained to a wall and being tortured. I realised, somehow, through the screaming in my mind, that even in that shackled, bloody helplessness, I was still free: free to hate the men who were torturing me, or to forgive them. It doesn’t sound like much, I know. But in the flinch and bite of the chain, when it’s all you’ve got, that freedom is a universe of possibility. And the choice you make, between hating and forgiving, can become the story of your life.”

In order to choose a different thought you have to have an awareness of what you are thinking. You can develop that by watching your thoughts or paying attention to what you are feeling. If you feel angry or sad ask yourself what have I just been thinking? Once you get good at watching your thoughts (if you are not there already) you can work with the statements “thank you but no thank you I choose” or “Delete, delete, delete, I choose” Or “Cancel, cancel, cancel, I choose”.

Many of my mentors and some people I know have gone beyond thought, they exist in constant present moment awareness. And this is a respectable endeavour. However, most people have 50-80 thousand thoughts a day and are looking to make some changes in their lives. So watching thoughts and working with thoughts can be used in conjunction with present moment meditation eg focusing on breath and the practise of ‘being here now’ and ‘loving what is’. By the way, these statements work well as a mantra for a run away mind seducing you in ever increasing spirals of negativity.

The vital reminder here is you are a free will being. You have the sovereign power to use your power of thought to influence your feelings, and actions. I encourage you to ask yourself what you want and remind you, you have the power to create.