What is love? What does it mean to you? Perhaps you have different definitions for romantic love, platonic love and universal love? Perhaps you have not contemplated the different meanings of love?

Many of my clients have worked with me to process and release emotions such as grief, hopelessness and depression that arise from the break down or break up from a relationship.

I have deep empathy for this because I personally discovered Emotional Freedom Techniques after a period of failed attempts to heal grief after a break down of a relationship.

Back in 2013 after an unexpected break up, I was so sad I couldn’t stop crying and I couldn’t seem to control my mind the way I had been able to, as I had been taught for many years. I used ALL the techniques I had been studying for 15 years (meditations, cutting the ties that bind, energy clearing, screaming into a pillow, mantras, mindfulness, breath work, dream work, bioenergetics, hypnosis, making pain my teacher and friend, reframing, surrendering and more!)

I knew how important it was to control my mind. I knew from many experiences that the inside creates the outside. I knew the power of my thoughts. Yet all my attempts were like holding two hands up to a tsunami of emotion. The tears flowed until…..

I got a ping, an email from Jenny Johnson (one of my EFT mentors) about level one of The Emotional Freedom Techniques. ‘Gee’ that’s what I need right now! I went to the course and had a session from Jenny and I realised what was underlying the grief was a childhood event that was causing an emotional resonance. With the support of Jenny I was able to clear the grief!

I felt amazing. The heavy weight had been lifted and I could return to creating my life.

Since then I have been a strong advocate of the Emotional Freedom Techniques and trained until I had mastery of EFT. I continue to work with my other tools such as counselling, hypnotherapy, metaphysical teaching – all pointing towards the same intentions of conscious reality creation.

I believe you create your reality consciously or unconsciously so you either do it or it is done to you. I know it sounds like a lot, especially if you are living a creation you don’t like. But the good news is, if you are responsible for it (and avoid blaming) you have the power to change it! 

I have learnt that when we are emotionally overwhelmed it can be very challenging to feel empowered and creative. I deeply support EFT as a very powerful tool to calm the tsunami of emotion, get to know yourself more deeply, to sit in truth and get to a place where you can create powerfully. 

There is a difference between everyday love and universal love. Many clients and friends tell me of the deep pain and dysfunction patterns that arise (as opposed to success patterns) that are often justified by statements like “but I love him / her / them”.

Some people stay in abusive relationships because of this kind of reasoning or similar. As you will hear in the video below ‘love’ is one of the most manipulated words on the planet….

Eg. If you love me you would…. x/y/z

Because I love you x/y/z

The truth is love is a universal energy, a vibration that relates to unity and oneness. 

It is often felt as a warmth and expansion in your chest. Often it is felt when a person falls in love but it is an energy you can tune into at any moment… 

It is like building a fire. If you grab and focus on one thought of unity, kindness, gratitude, oneness these are like the twigs / kindling before long you can use the winds of your concentration to create roaring warmth. Admittedly, when the wood is wet it is more challenging. That is why I love EFT as a powerful tool to assist you on your journey.

Imagine what the world would be like if we could share the love we have for those closest to us with the whole world and ourselves.

An important part of EFT is the set up statement:

“Even though [insert challenge] I deeply and completely love and accept myself x3“

Many people find loving and accepting themselves difficult because they have ingested the 3 most common beliefs from 0-21 I am not good enough, I don’t have enough, I don’t know enough.

Other reasons people find it hard to love themselves is because they find their behaviour unacceptable – they are very hard on themselves and I often tell people to put the stick away and stop beating yourself up please! Would you talk to a little child the way you talk to yourself?

Some people believe they won’t change if they love and accept themselves. Yet it is the subconscious mind that dictates behaviour and the limiting beliefs that are held that control a lot of the destruction.

I suggest that if you work towards and adopt the belief that you are loveable and acceptable change can and will happen. Healing is a process and not an event. I encourage you to watch he below video from one of my courses.

If you need to enter a password to see video, use “love”